The start of a new year means different things to different people. For some parents of children with hearing loss it can be a time of renewal and reflection, a time to look at all the progress that has been made over the year. A time to get excited about what the upcoming year will hold.
For other parents it is a time filled with frustration and regret. The feeling of never really getting anywhere with their child’s hearing loss diagnosis and therapy. A time filled with “if onlys”, “what ifs” and “should haves.” But the good news is that whatever camp we see ourselves in, January allows us to start with a clean slate. We get to begin again.
These first few weeks of the New Year are a time to let go of self-judgment and the stress that has accumulated in your family over the past year. As the parent of a child with hearing loss it is so easy to become stuck in focusing on all the things you should have done differently, but you didn’t because you simply didn’t know you could do them differently.
Not knowing generally boils to down to…
- Lack of money
- Lack of time
- Lack of resources
- Lack of knowledge
- Lack of support
But it is never too late to start again. We continue to gain experiences and knowledge every day. We grow every time we read an article, a blog post, or a book. We gain support every time we talk to someone who is more experienced in raising a child with hearing loss, or if we ask questions of our child’s service provider. We can look for new paths to help us with the money and the resources we would like to help us with our child (the HLAA website has a great roundup of resources.)
So give yourself a break and a pat on the back that you have made it this far. Continue to grow and to question. Step back into your life